10 Ways To Ensure Your Husband’s Failure

1.     Be unhappy with yourself.

Believe it or not your husband needs you to be happy. Remember the old saying “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!”? This saying is beyond a funny catch phrase, it’s the truth! We set the tone for our home and if we can learn to be joyful beyond our circumstances we will create an environment for not only our husbands to succeed, but for our families to flourish!

2.     Treat his passion as “the other woman”.

This might seem like a ridiculous statement, but a lot of us have felt like we receive the leftovers when it comes to our husband’s time, attention and love because of the amount of time spent on their hobbies. Instead of the short comments, rolling of the eyes or getting mad and not talking about the real issues, sit down and have a real conversation about what your personal needs are. Sometimes it just a busy season (if their passion is work) and sometimes it’s just really not understanding what your spouse’s needs truly are. Real conversations are difficult, but healthy conflict provokes a deeper sense of trust and love. 

3.     Blame him for your lack of fulfillment.

We often have seasons of life that are not as fulfilling as others. Whether it’s having littles, working a job we don’t love or just not knowing where God has called us to we can feel empty and exhausted by life. These are all natural feelings and can sometimes be hard to reconcile when you live with someone who has a high call on their life and is coming home from a job where they feel completely fulfilled. Instead of comparing and blaming take some time to pray about where and what God has in store for you!

4.     Don’t be intimate with him.

Sure fire way to discourage a man! Enough said!

5.     Be more interested in appearances than in his personal and spiritual health.

Your husband has enough people around him that produces a pressure to perform. Check on his personal and spiritual health. Pray for him! When you see he’s tired, make tough decisions and be ok with letting go of great opportunities for much needed rest. With God you can put your business cards away! He brings the right opportunities at the right times and it won’t be at the expense of your husband.

6.     Be insecure in your role. 

Whether staying at home, working at the church, volunteering or corporate America your husband needs you to be secure in your role. Doubt is draining, so be confident. 

7.     Take it upon yourself to keep him humble.

Your husband doesn’t need another critic! I’m not saying to become a cheerleader, but put your stopwatch away.  Look for the good and give insights in prayerful, loving ways. 

8.     Put your needs before his. 

It’s amazing when we actually put our husbands’ needs first, as instructed in Ephesians 5:21, how our needs are met as well. If you’re frustrated in your marriage you may be serving your own emotions instead of serving him.

9.      Love his title more than you love him.

Does your man actually know that you love him? Or does he only know you are in love with the Pastor, doctor, lawyer, status etc..? 

10. Don’t create time just for the two of you.

Put everything aside and focus on each other. Impossible, right?! No, you have as much time as you need. Set some priorities in your life. Own your calendar and don’t let it own you! If you fail as a couple many things around you will fail. You owe it to yourselves and others to set your relationship with each other as priority!